12/31), we made the switch. One other note: When I originally thought about moving Reed several months prior to Molly, I was thinking of her actual arrival, but I am glad we went ahead as early as planned because he was a little dubious about us even working and decorating in her room. The lag time allowed us to let his old room sit for awhile and not be immediately taken over by baby sister preparation.
One negative aspect of 25 month spacing is that Molly's arrival falls right when I probably would have otherwise started potty training. I realized well in advance that I needed to either plan to do it several months before Molly or several months after... There was no way I was going to tackle that milestone at a waddling 8 months pregnant, or juggling a newborn schedule. I decided to wait until after Baby #2 for a few reasons... 1) 22 months is fairly young for potty training, especially for a boy, and Reed has not shown much interest. 2) Most of my friends have seen some regression in their potty-trained toddlers, and I figured if anything was going to bring that out it would be a new baby sibling in diapers. 3) As far as I can imagine it sounds easier to have both in diapers for the first few months and on my own diapering schedule, rather than dealing with accidents and having to rush a newly trained toddler (and his newborn sister and all of their gear) to a public restroom on demand. Sooo... I am hoping that we'll hit a good schedule/stride around the 3 month mark (which will be summer- perfect for underwear only days!), and dive into potty training. (Oh boy!) I had planned to read up and have all of my potty preparations ready pre-Molly, but my reading successes have been non-existent this year.
Talking about Molly's Arrival
Celebrating Big Bro
Of course, we've talked a lot about Reed becoming a big brother. Thinking about how proudly he wears stickers of any kind and knowing he had seen me do a lot of crafting for Molly's room recently, I made Reed a special (<see, there it is again) "Big Brother Badge" last week.
|(I googled for an idea and found this really cute one).|
Matt and I also bought Reed a gift "from Molly" that she will give to him at the hospital.
birthday gifts away and have been introducing them every few days. Hopefully, the new gifts will last until the couple of days we are gone and Papa and Grammy can continue getting out special surprises that he can enjoy while we're away.
First Weeks at Home
Last thought: Believe it or not, contrary to what this blog post seems to reflect, I have also tried to downplay the whole transition. :) While behind the scenes I have put a lot of thought and prayer into ways we can navigate this time in our lives well, we've tried to implement those ideas in a natural way. And while I think a lot about Reed's heart in the midst of these changes, a huge part of the struggle for siblings is rooted in their (our) inherent sin and selfishness. Reed is two. It is a good thing that he will continue to learn that life doesn't revolve around him. I'll say it again: Reed is two! These last few months have been a raging battle in consistent discipline and dealing with a tough, but tender stage. I really hope that we can stay on top of our efforts to parent him well when things get (more) crazy around here in a few weeks.
Honestly, I have probably thought way too much about something I can't do much about, and the whole transition will play out however it plays out. Reed just has such a perceptive and tender little heart and most of all we want to do our very best to make sure he feels loved and safe as his world changes in a big way. I've been praying over my sweet little man and know others have been too. (Thank you!) It is hard to imagine my baby not being my baby, but I am truly excited about Reed becoming a big brother and seeing how that special role becomes a part of who he is and who he is becoming.
***Update: Read a short post-baby follow-up to these tactics here